At first we may not always notice (or actually
WANT to notice) that there could
be some less flattering sides to
But what usually happens is that, as soon as the 'honeymoon' is
over, the problems begin to
emerge, and the expected marital happiness fails to appear. Before
bonds of marriage feel too narrow; there are too many expectations
cannot be met, such as:
• many feel that there are too many restrictions on their freedom of
• both parties have other interests, which they do not share with
• parenting takes its toll and prevents one from doing what one
• you blame your spouse for the lack of freedom for
• sexual desire plummets, love shrinks, you try to be romantic, but
seems that you have nothing to talk about other than blaming each
the lack of happiness
• you argue about the smallest, stupidest little things
• you become irritable and angry with each other
• the narrow limits of the joint finances put a strain on your
• you are constantly tired from being both a career person and a
• love is stifled by dirty socks and laundry to be hung up, taken
• shopping and cooking become annoying tasks that you try to push
• you never have time to enjoy your own interests, and you are
confronted with the demand to 'be there' for each other and hold
• mutual respect and tolerance dwindle, and sooner or later the
Thus, the previously happily married spouses now have different
Today it is a rare sight to see couples with teenage children who
together. The vast majority of children today grow up with parents
divorced, and many have new 'step-parents' that they have to deal
Simultaneous to the relationship problems we see how women in the
decades have been in the process of overtaking the men when it comes
education and careers.
Today there is an increasing number of women in traditional
male jobs' at universities such as doctors, scientists, lawyers,
dentists, pharmacists, university professors and so on. In the
business world the newly coined expression 'oestrogen tornadoes'
shows that the women are rushing forward in their careers, in many
cases overtaking the men, and today
the women in Scandinavia make more money than the men in every 3
Evidence suggests that the women's intellectual abilities (and
self-confidence to go with it) have grown dramatically over the last
years, so that today they are able to do the jobs that used to be 'reserved'
for men. We live in a society undergoing a rapid change due to our
problems with being married or living together. We are simply
dissolution tendency in our traditional ways of living together, and
question is of course: What is going on? What is the reason? Why are
longer as good at being married to each other as our parents were?
Many people are confused about the problems in their
relationships to such a high
degree, that a plausible bid for an explanation to this dissolution
in our traditional marital structure is urgently needed. The general
as to the reason is that it is the development of society in the
wake of the
women's liberation movement of the 70s.
Female emancipation set a new agenda, and today we see the
result of women's liberation: they can no longer be bothered to be
tied to the same ' cold fish' for a whole lifetime,
and they pull at their tether until it breaks. They want their
have sex with whomever they fancy and live life without marital
have become more self-aware and independent, so they take longer and
educations, so that they are not dependent on being provided for by
That is true, but is it the whole explanation?
Are we not missing a deeper explanation that can account for the
forces that started the entire women's 'liberation' movement? What
lies behind the fact that the women of the 70's
wanted freedom and equality and had the courage to go out and demand
lies behind the fact that the women of today are becoming more and
intellectual and self-reliant? Are we still not missing a real
to what prompted the women to demand equality in all fields of life?
be that it not only has to do with a development in society, but
development and a transformation of a much more fundamental kind?
Could it be
that our changing forms of cohabitation are in fact based in a much
organic / psychological transformation of us as human beings?
Not many people have offered to come up with an explanation to
that question But one has, and that is the great Danish visionary
and intuitive Martinus (Thomsen). Martinus
offers a detailed explanation and analysis of the inner
we human beings are subjected to in the course of our evolution: the
transformation of our sexual poles. Martinus throws a brilliant
light on the
inner sexual / organic transformation that is happening with men and
today. It is through Martinus' illuminating analysis of the
our sexual poles that we find the real reasons for the dissolution
family structure that we are witnessing today.
As Martinus is the only one to offer an explanation to the deeper
cause of the large-scale tendency of dissolution that is affecting
people today, it seems like a good idea to look
at what he says. The intention of this book is to provide an easy
introduction to IvIartinus' unique analysis of the internal forces
behind today's marital incapacity: The transformation of the sexual
poles of the human being. But first let us just briefly look at who
Martinus was, and why his bid for an explanation can be of value to
Martinus had achieved what was later called 'cosmic consciousness' (link).
Thus he was able to answer and explain all questions of a spiritual,
philosophical and metaphysical nature. Martinus has written
extensively about his spiritual experience in his book
About the Birth of My Mission'.
30years of age and here> nearly 90>
Martinus' spiritual experience was the beginning of his
extensive writings, which at his death in 1981, included no less
than some 9000 pages and
100 symbols. His main work, Livets Bog, (The Book
of LIFE) (Martinus wanted his main work to be called by its original
Danish title in all languages) has 7 volumes and approximately 3000
pages. The bibliography at the back of the book mentions all
Martinus' books, some articles and symbols.
Now some readers will probably ask what we need Martinus' work
for? What sets it apart from other works? This question can be
answered briefly: It is a unique work, which in a logical and
precise way provides answers to life's big questions. Martinus
presents logical answers to questions such as:
- where are we coming from and where are we going?
- what is the meaning of life?
- how do we create happiness?
- do we only live this one life or is there life after death?
- how can we shape our destiny?
- is there a master plan, is there a creator?
And much, much more. Now, some people will probably doubt that
Martinus can really have truthful answers to lifes big questions.
But those doubts are put to rest when you read his work. Once you
have read his work from one end to the other, there is no longer any
doubt that here we have a unique concrete, convincing and complete
answer to the question: What is the truth about life?
With a compelling logic and subtlety Martinus reveals the
structure of the universe in such a way that you, when you have read
the whole work, feel totally convinced that this is how things are.
From every page the truth vibrates in such a convincing form that
it cannot be dismissed neither intellectually, emotionally nor
I have yet to meet a person who has read Martinus' entire work,
who is not totally convinced of its true value. And what is it that
Martinus reveals? It is obviously difficult to boil the contents of
so many pages of text down to a brief introduction, but let me
mention that Martinus describes (among other things): The structure
of life; the identity of the universe with a conscious, living
cosmos; the existence of a metaphysical, spiritual plane of
existence; the development of the living beings through the plant
kingdom, the animal kingdom, the unfinished human kingdom and up to
the real human kingdom; the immortality of all living beings; the
necessity of reincarnation; the existence of a law for the creation
of fate (the law of karma); the law of attraction and repulsion as
one of the universe's most important natural laws; the inevitable
existence of an intelligent creator who with logic, planning and
love has created the universe as a place where both light and
darkness can be experienced by the eternal beings.
And then, of course, an analysis of the transformation of the
sexual poles, which is the real reason for the marital misery and
the subject of
this book. One can say that Martinus' work constitutes the most
complete spiritual guidance that has been presented to mankind to
date. It may sound like some kind of exaggeration, but there is no
way that you can explain the content of Martinus' work without using
big words. It is so fantastic, so momentous, so unique and so
compelling that it is surprising that it is not better known in the
world today. But the reason why Martinus' work is relatively unknown
is probably that it is so much on the leading edge of a new world
picture that it requires extreme open-mindedness and forward
thinking to understand it.
this was clipped from book:
The Downfall of Marriage, by Else Byskov |